Nearly a third of women who posted online personals had sex on the first date, and 43 percent of them didn't use a condom, finds a survey in Sexuality Research and Social Policy. I tried dating online and I'll be the first to admit, people are looser with their bodies and their tongues online. You can be whoever you want online. But, this statistic bothers me on so many levels. The desperation and loneliness drives so many people to do self-destructive things. When you meet someone online or otherwise, you have a responsibility to yourself, to the person you are and wanna be to get to know who you're dealing with. In my opinion, that doesn't mean swapping fluids, that means doing time getting to know that person on a deeper level than the physical. Now online, we get to know the person many times before we get to know them. Feelings are involved initially. When you get home, you can't wait to talk to the person or chat with them. Haven't even met the person yet. And then when you finally meet there's such a firestorm of emotions until many times (via the statistic) it culminates into a physical manifestation of all those pent-up emotions. But how sad to go out like that. Particularly when you get intimate with an online lover you've met in person for the first time. Many times, the fairy tale ends and reality sets in. Perhaps you didn't have as much in common as you thought. Perhaps the person wasn't who they claimed to be. And not using protection, well thats just ______ (you fill in the blanks). I think that meeting the one is not supposed to be an easy, snap of the finger process... It comes when you're ready... And many times, we fool ourselves into thinking we're ready when we aren't near ready. But, the fact remains, this statistic is indicative of a larger problem. Singles- don't be desperate; be decisive and defiant. And if you are out there doing things, wrap it up please.
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