As I sat at work, I thought about why I started this blog in the first place. I started this blog first as a consciousness raising effort and now as I begin 2008, I want to use this blog as an effort to uncover what its like to be single in America, what its like to be passionately single. So call me an investigative reporter or whatever you will... but I want to show that singles are more than just concerned about dating and mating.
Do you really think the glass slipper was comfortable? Heck no. And I'm sure Sleeping Beauty and Snow White's breath smelled horrid when they awoke from their deep sleep. There's an ugly, unfinished side to fairy tales in which the story ends and reality begins. We see good triumph over evil, time and again, however I would have liked to see what happened when the little mermaid actually moved in with the Prince following their oh-so fabulous wedding. Why is it that these women (with the exception of Mulan who I must say was pretty awesome) found purpose when a love interest entered their lives?
Every person on the earth has a purpose. And that’s with or without a mate. Love doesn't suddenly complete us and give us the things we lack. Truth be told - it makes some people more dependent. God gives us tons of resources daily. Since when does a romantic relationship signify growth and coming of age? What is it about Singleville that makes so many people run the other direction? This whole "need to be in a relationship" idea is screwed up. Men chasing after women, women chasing after men. The meat-market club scene. The hook-up bar scene. Match.com. Eharmony. Speed Dating. The Chatroom. The Phone connection. Even MySpace and Facebook have become dating meccas. All of these tomfoolery websites have two things in common: 1. They want revenue because they know that most singles don't want to be alone and will pay handsomely for the illusion of finding "the one" 2. They want you to believe there's something wrong with being single. And we've bought into it and it costs us dearly. 50% of all first marriages ends in divorce. Also a slight majority of online dating first dates turn into sexcapades and not lasting relationships... But, what is important is that there are many singles who are actually ok, doing well and excelling as satisfied singles and not as "singles in waiting"... and we need to honor that.
So I'm sharing my journey with you... and you can share with me too... Leave comments!! Let me know what is going on with you as you journey through Singleville. Also stop by singleedition.com for uplifting news on being single in America.
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